"Do you know why we have the sunflowers? It’s not because Vincent van Gogh suffered. It’s because Vincent van Gogh had a brother who loved him. Through all the pain, he had a tether, a connection to the world. And that… is the focus of the story we need. Connection."
"Emotion is not opposed to reason. Emotions guide and manage thought in fundamental ways and complement the deficiencies of thinking."
"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change"
"Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness."
"The brain itself is a 'social organ'."
"Loving yourself is not antithetical to health, it is intrinsic to health. You can't take good care of a thing you hate."
"It is the client who knows what hurts, what directions to go, what problems are crucial, what experiences have been deeply buried."
"Many aspects of bodily function and emotional behavior are shaped by social interaction... If they are seen as dangerous enemies then they can only be managed through exerting social pressure and fear... But if feelings are respected as valuable guides both the state of your own organism as well as to that of others, then a very different culture arises..."
"Knowing that we can be loved exactly as we are gives us all the best opportunity for growing into the healthiest of people."
"...her wings are cut and then she is blamed for not knowing how to fly."
"You don't have to suffer continual chaos in order to grow."
"Nature appears to have built the apparatus of rationality not just on top of the apparatus of biological regulation, but also from it and with it."
"Everything in the universe is within you."
"Isolation only exists in isolation; once shared, it evaporates."